Saturday, May 16, 2009

ME A STRONGER [WOMAN] my d[I]vorce

I once was a very strong female. From childhood I had to raise my younger brother nicasio. From eating out the trash can, to stealing, to fighting, to helping my friends sale crack @ the age of 11. I had to go threw the things a 30+ person would go threw @ a very young age because my parents were on drugs... am I mad?? Noo... my parents got off dope when I was 16. From then I always worked. Helped my mom with rent. Even bought her, her first cell phone! But at 17 I started to hang out with the wrong type of people. And started selling meth. I was even ho'n girls to my first loves friends. I stopped one day becuz my mom stopped me to talk to me and started crying becuz she thought I was on drugs. That day I gave away everything I had! At 17 almost 18 I was introduced to this fine ass dominican man with a new york accent. He caught my eye but @ age 18 he would catch my heart. I moved out and occupied my time around him and work. When I was with Chazz [my baby] he tought me everything I needed to know about men and their games they play. He tought me so well I started to use his advice against him. At the age of 18 I was pregnant by chazz, at 19 I had a child and a baby daddy who denied our son. Stressed my out so badly I had our son 2 months early. We got a paternity test to prove that our son was his. But our relationship did not work.At 20 I met this guy named marcus. He took my son in as his since my baby father didn't. At 22 marcus left me in the middle of the night and took my rent money, all becuz he slept with a girl and three days later she said she was pregnant. A month later I took him back. 24 years old I was married to marcus... I took care of everything bills, food, housing, transportaion, ALL LIVNG EXPENSES with no problem as I done since we got together. From the day I married marcus I felt I made the biggest mistake of my life. I wanted to end it. I tired leavin him, cheated did everything I could to get out. I was unhappy, he made me feel like ★☆eXplict☆★, and didn't help me within the house hold. I was on twitter one day. Twitting, updating talkin about how I was unhappy and wanted to leave. I read all the @ replies to me. The "work it out" blah blah blah but one caught my eye. Had me thinking, reminded me how I always was a strong female and should try to rebuild myself and my self esteem. That conversation came from @kittilitter a radio personality from the east coast. She told me about here situations with marriage and also told me I shouldn't let no man treat me the way he did. And those words gave me something to think about and re evaluate. Me... y was I letting this man treat me like this.I was always unhappy. Always trying to make sure he was happy. My friends felt uncomfortable around him, but outside people thought we was the happiest couple. Don't get me wrong... at times I was happy... but then again he gave me a false sense of security. I always told myself he'll change. And he never did.Now I am working on just me. This relationship with marcus was a bigg learning stone for me. I am much happier. I am smiling more. I am a stronger woman. My soul is free.

Wednesday, May 13, 2009