she's just not that into you

"HE'S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU"
This book made headlines! Shoot they even made a movie about it... but dang what about us? There's signs that show we aren't that into men!
Now ladies! I ain't finna give away toooo many details... we gotta keep our secrets... but men... we are as slick... if not SLICKER when it comes to the "not that into you" thing.

she gives you her number:
But NEVER seems to pick up when you call. If you had to ask more than once to get her number... she didn't want to give it to you. Why did she giver you her real number? Cuz y'all crazy now and days, "ima call you right now to make sure you gave me your real number" nigga! Come on... that ain't cute... its psychotic! RED FLAG!

she came in her friends car:
But you see her get in the driver seat, and drive away. And you didn't see anyone in her squad drink. Lol

she's over there dancing her ass off:
Then when you come over she starts dancing off beat, smirks and giggles while leaning her head to the side... she can dance... just not with you.

when she says she will call:
But just texts or twitters you

There's soooo many other things we do to show that we are not into you. But not letting the whole cat out the bag. We women are "unstable creatures" lmao very hard to figure out. So men... good luck ;)

xoxo
-tay

computer love

Everyday on myspace I probably get 20+ emails saying "what's up sexy, you got a man?"
I DONT do internet dating. Don't get me wrong sometimes I flirt... but I wouldn't intentionaly be online trying to find love.
I know people do it. And I've heard of people falling in love. Maybe its easier because online you can make yourself somebody you want to be but aren't.
Remeber when the party lines were the ish? I was to young to be on them but me and my friends used to be on their and play and talk ish. I never met anyone off of a party line but I have friends who did and still do!
There are dangers of meeting someone online. I mean there are dangers of meeting someone in the club or at the grocery store, but don't you think the dangers would be worse?

Anyways... I don't know why I brought this topic up. Its not appealing to me.

Eff eff eff eff!
This might be a double post day ;)
Lol

xoxo
-tay

talkin and following

A reader hit me up yesterday and asked for some relationship advice. So I'm currently helping her with her problem. I wish her all the luck some one could wish some one... I hope she let's me use the emails back and forth for a post when all is said and done. [Names consealed of course]

I don't really have much to say today. My last 3 blogs where good ones... read them... of and if you read this blog please ign up for te followers thing on the right. Thanx to those who already did. I love to see who's reading.

But I'm tired... about to get the kid off to school! Went out last night and I ended up taking care of the boo-ski's drunk self. Everyone at flossalini's birthday was drunk... besides me lol but I still had fun!

xoxo
-tay

Let's Talk About Sex Baybe ;)

Sex! Omgosh! I love it... I can live without it but ill be grumpy.

If you are under 18 please leave now *I have to say that*

haahaha okay SEX! S-E-X!
Definition: : sexually motivated phenomena or behavior
-www.mariam-webster.com

Whatever the effn defintion is... it causes pleasure and reporduces life we all know that for sure lol Hmmm where do I begin? Do I start with positions? Sex & relationships? Kinds of sex? The consequences of sex? I mean there is soooo much I can do with this subject... its a fun subject for me, I've taken classe and I have learned a lot about sex. Now, just because I know alittle more than your average 25 year old might... don't judge lol I am very very very SAFE and did not learn most of what I know by experience... [pick up a book] lol <--- for real... read... lol okay... so with that said ima start with damn I hella don't know where to start!

Types of sex and sexualities! This is where ima start. People always say "omg their freaks!" When really they aren't freaks they just enjoy sex differently then you might... okay... first please you must be very open minded about sex... I'm going to label the paragraphs with titles if you see a title and are uncomfortable move on to the next... don't leave hateful comments calling people names either. You are more than welcome to voice your opinion but don't be hateful! Okay... let's begin lol

LGBT: Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Transgender
These are people who are attracted to the same sex. We all know who/what an lesbian, gay, bisexual are. But a lot of people confuse a tansgender with a crossdresser or a drag queen... a transgender person is some one who is in transition of changing their sex but is still of the gay or lesbian community.

Swingers
Swingers maybe a couple or a married couple who has sexual intercourse with another couple.

Polygamy
This is someone is in a multi person concenting relationship. Like 3 people live and love together as one couple. This is widely recognized in the morman community. Not to be confused with Bigamy in which someone marries more than one person.

S&M: sadomasochism
This is when couple participate in roleplay and cause pain on their spouse such as spanking, tickling, lite biting. The severity of the pain is up to the people participating. These are consentual activities. The word sadmasochism comes fro the words "Sadism" and "masochism" which describes some forms of mental disabilies and such. But the people who participate in the S&M practices are far from that.

Vanilla sex
This is normal regular sex. No kinkyness, just regular good ol missionary sex...

Okay I think I've covered some of the basics in sexualites and such. This was FUN! So I think ima write once a week about a new sex subject? What do you think?
*shut up hater* lol

But yeah! I think ima do a sex educational every week... note! I am not certified... I didn't go to school for this ish. I read, listen to podcasts and stuff like that. These are from my learnings and experiences. So "do not try this at home" lol "leave it up to the professionals" and things like that!

xoxo
-tay

when is the right time?

Hey Tay, please consider this: IS THERE A TIME LIMIT ON A REALTIONSHIP? AT SOME POINT IS IT JUST...OVER? DO PEOPLE GROW APART? SMGDMFH

I had received this is a DM for my blog. Now I'm no relationship expert... sometimes I need help with mine. Sometimes we really already know the answers to our questions... right? Like when you ask a friend for advice they are telling you what you already kno?

I have dated men, played them, loved them, hated them, cried over them everything someone with feelings has done. but the relationships that I did have were mostly long term my first boyfriend from when I was 13-18, my baby daddy 17-19, my husband 19-24... I have a problem holding on to relationships when there are over!

For instence I started talking to this guy 3 years ago. Seriously for the past 6 months. Yes we were talking while I was with my ex husband but I never cheated on my husband with this person. Anyways when I left my ex husband [marcus] we decided to start a relationship. Everything was perfect untill he went back to his girlfriend and I found out... now me and him fight almost every week, we aren't seeing each other anymore... but somehow I feel I am sticking around hoping he breaks it off with his girl. He doesn't want to be with her... everyone knows it and sees it... but he is stuck... everyone gets attatched to someone... they get comfortable... they start to loose sight of who they are because of a certain person... I've done it for 5 years and I feel my self doing it with this person [*bob] he is a great person but I'm starting to get comfortable thinking one day he'll really leave his girl... which I'm realizing he's not and I'm movng forward. This relationship between me and him is over! I know it is and now I have to do me and move on...

I think a relationship is over when you feel its over, when you've exaugsted every thing in your power to make it work and it simply just will not work! Also if you feel like its over.... and you don't want to be with that person anymore I think you should tell them, if they still care for you and want to be with you... and you ain't there anymore... leave em... it sounds harsh but honestly why lead that person on? Why tell them things and have them believe you want to be with them when you don't? So they can hate you later? Regret you? Dispise you? Feelings are meant to be hurt... and then there are feelings that never get broke like... healing... they will heal from it and once they realize that you broke up with them not to make it worse and that you did it because you care? that's the bet feeling ever...

its 2009/2010... its not the 50's anymore... people rarely find their "true loves" anymore... people think more with their no-no spots then with their hearts... with that said... nothing lasts forever. It seems like it in this day and age... at any point a relaionship could be over... hopefully in this crazy world you did find someone that is your soulmate and you can work it out... but after one big fight don't just say its over... fight! fight for the person you love, not fight them I think that's what a lot of us do... I know I'm guilty... I've fought the person argued, nagged, complained, bitched whatever... but not fought for him... there have been times where I've done nothing but fight for him and ended up feeling defeated emotionaly even though I got him back. We need to do everything we can and fight for our love.... but there's only so many beat downs someone can take... after a while if your the only one fighting... you won! You may not have one the person your fighting for but you've won yourself... move on and love yourself.

Yeah sooo not the 50's... I always say "I wish we loved like we did in the 50's and fought like we did in the 80's [dance battles]" lol its hard to find that person... we always look for "mr.right" but find "mr.rightnow" people grow apart all the time... sometimes we just grow up!

This is a long blog... ill prolly read it over and over and add stuff... but this is all honest and my feelings... I hope my advice and experience helps you in your time of heartache. Sometimes we don't have anyone to listen to us... but if you send me a question even if you wanna do it discreetly [like above] I won't say names and I prolly will post it the same day...
If you have comments or advice yourself leave it in the comments please... I'm growing with y'all and love to hear/read your advice and comments too

xoxo
-tay

*name has been change to protect...the...innocent.... lmao you know what I mean