If you coud buy yourself, how much would you pay? honestly?
I'm not talkin bout in a hoe type way but if there was a barbie or action figure for you... how much would you pay?
Please leave a comment and say how much you would pay. Don't leave a cocky comment talkin bout "I'm the shit I wud charge more than anyone cud ever make" okay glad you feel that way but be realiistic.
Ima write a blog tomorrow on self worth. I'm not asking for this info to put anyone down tomorrow. I just want to know.
xoxo
-tay
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Monday, November 16, 2009
Saturday, November 14, 2009
7
"Everytime I try to leave something keeps pulling me back"
-chingy ft tyreese
"I sware this time is the last time! I'm done"
-anyone in a relationship
They say in a unhealthy relationship the couple will go back to each other an average of 7 times before untimatly breaking up.
Why do we keep going back? People say "cuz I still love em." I've learned that to be untrue. I was with my ex for 5 years. He took me to hell and back. But I kept going back. After our first big break up of two years I always cheated on him. And he continued to do so to me. I kept taking him back because I would think "where would he go?" Or "what about my son?" One guy I was talkin to for 3 years while I was with my ex and he would say "how come you don't leave?" And my answer would be "because I love him".... I loved him but wasn't in love. At times I would fall back in love with him... (ie: me marring him) but within a month I was regreting being back with him and cheated on him. Till I finally left him.
People confuse love with security and often are mistaking love for that false sense of security. I know I did. I know a lot of people continue to go back to unhealty relationships because they do not want to be alone, they don't like sleeping alone etc. But I've learn to find out.... you're never alone. Loneliness is a eff'd up feeling but its a feeling that you can deal with untill you find that person who treats you right.
So when your in a relationship and you keep going back... think it threw and make sure its what you want to do. Sometimes it does work for couples! But now and days people take relationships to a whole new light. So if you want to continue in that cycle of hurt, pain, breaking up, going back go head. But circles are just continuous lines... lines do end somewhere.
-chingy ft tyreese
"I sware this time is the last time! I'm done"
-anyone in a relationship
They say in a unhealthy relationship the couple will go back to each other an average of 7 times before untimatly breaking up.
Why do we keep going back? People say "cuz I still love em." I've learned that to be untrue. I was with my ex for 5 years. He took me to hell and back. But I kept going back. After our first big break up of two years I always cheated on him. And he continued to do so to me. I kept taking him back because I would think "where would he go?" Or "what about my son?" One guy I was talkin to for 3 years while I was with my ex and he would say "how come you don't leave?" And my answer would be "because I love him".... I loved him but wasn't in love. At times I would fall back in love with him... (ie: me marring him) but within a month I was regreting being back with him and cheated on him. Till I finally left him.
People confuse love with security and often are mistaking love for that false sense of security. I know I did. I know a lot of people continue to go back to unhealty relationships because they do not want to be alone, they don't like sleeping alone etc. But I've learn to find out.... you're never alone. Loneliness is a eff'd up feeling but its a feeling that you can deal with untill you find that person who treats you right.
So when your in a relationship and you keep going back... think it threw and make sure its what you want to do. Sometimes it does work for couples! But now and days people take relationships to a whole new light. So if you want to continue in that cycle of hurt, pain, breaking up, going back go head. But circles are just continuous lines... lines do end somewhere.
Friday, November 13, 2009
positions
"How do you want it?"
I think Tupac said it best. Even though in the song he's talkin about something kinda different, just the thought of him whispering that in my ear turns me on! Ladies?! Am I right? Lmao
This sex post is about POSITIONS! The things that make sex that much better! I know someone who never tried anything but missonary! And I know someone who didn't know what missonary was! Wtf... its the boring position... to me it is. Lol soooo ima list some positions, discribe them, how to do them and if I can find some pix ima post them.
[NON-PRONOGRAPHIC EITHER.... PERV lol]
So let's get started!
*if you are under 18 leave now*
Missonary:
This is the normal position. Girl on her back and the guy is on top.
The twist:
The girl turns to her side and wraps her leg around the guy. Then the guy enters on top or from the side.
Girl on top:
This is the guy on his back and the girl is on top. This is a position that gets the girl to orgasim quicker because it hits the G-Spot.
Cowgirl:
This is another position when the girl is on top but she is on her feet instead of her knees. Like she's "droppin it low" in the club.
Backwards cowgirl:
Basically just like above but the girl is now facing the males feet.
Legs over the shoulders:
This is a deep penitration position. Bring the girls legs up while she is on her back and put them over your sholders and enter!
Butterfly:
This position, the girl on her back, crosser leggs like indian style and enter. Another deep penitration position.
The bulldog:
This is the NORMAL doggie style. The girl is on her hands and knees and the guy enters.
Doggie style 1:
The girl is on her knees but her stomach is on the bed/floor where ever lol and her ass is in the air.
Doggie style 2: advanced
The girl is in a push up position. You are standing up behind her and she wraps her leggs around you and you hold them.
Kneeling 69: advanced
The guy is kneeling and the girl is upside down. Please try if you are strong. You are basically doing this on the floor.
I have tons-o-more positions in my kinky little mind. But ion wanna give away my moves. Lol but ladies rock your hips in bed PLZ! Don't just lay there and moan... not cute. And guys when we say "DON'T MOVE! YOUR RIGHT THERE" DON'T EFFN MOVE! GOSH! Otherwise... have fun... play... try new things and foreplay is great... ummm next post? Yes I think so...plus who wants to dip there fondue stick into dry chocolate? I wouldn't. Lol
xxoxoo
-tay
I think Tupac said it best. Even though in the song he's talkin about something kinda different, just the thought of him whispering that in my ear turns me on! Ladies?! Am I right? Lmao
This sex post is about POSITIONS! The things that make sex that much better! I know someone who never tried anything but missonary! And I know someone who didn't know what missonary was! Wtf... its the boring position... to me it is. Lol soooo ima list some positions, discribe them, how to do them and if I can find some pix ima post them.
[NON-PRONOGRAPHIC EITHER.... PERV lol]
So let's get started!
*if you are under 18 leave now*
Missonary:
This is the normal position. Girl on her back and the guy is on top.
The twist:
The girl turns to her side and wraps her leg around the guy. Then the guy enters on top or from the side.
Girl on top:
This is the guy on his back and the girl is on top. This is a position that gets the girl to orgasim quicker because it hits the G-Spot.
Cowgirl:
This is another position when the girl is on top but she is on her feet instead of her knees. Like she's "droppin it low" in the club.
Backwards cowgirl:
Basically just like above but the girl is now facing the males feet.
Legs over the shoulders:
This is a deep penitration position. Bring the girls legs up while she is on her back and put them over your sholders and enter!
Butterfly:
This position, the girl on her back, crosser leggs like indian style and enter. Another deep penitration position.
The bulldog:
This is the NORMAL doggie style. The girl is on her hands and knees and the guy enters.
Doggie style 1:
The girl is on her knees but her stomach is on the bed/floor where ever lol and her ass is in the air.
Doggie style 2: advanced
The girl is in a push up position. You are standing up behind her and she wraps her leggs around you and you hold them.
Kneeling 69: advanced
The guy is kneeling and the girl is upside down. Please try if you are strong. You are basically doing this on the floor.
I have tons-o-more positions in my kinky little mind. But ion wanna give away my moves. Lol but ladies rock your hips in bed PLZ! Don't just lay there and moan... not cute. And guys when we say "DON'T MOVE! YOUR RIGHT THERE" DON'T EFFN MOVE! GOSH! Otherwise... have fun... play... try new things and foreplay is great... ummm next post? Yes I think so...plus who wants to dip there fondue stick into dry chocolate? I wouldn't. Lol
xxoxoo
-tay
Tuesday, November 10, 2009
do you
I know I was supposed to do a sex post today but I have been going threw relationship problems myself.
Relationships are hard to manage. Wheather they are friendly or romantic. I know when I care for someone I care for them more than I should. I had a friend that took advantage of me for 10 years! Had to cut her off... its hard letting someone you care for go... even if you know its an unhealthy relationship.
People take others for granted all the time.
In the end we just need to wory about ourselves and the kids we have [if any] because in the end that's all we have.
xoxo
-tay
Relationships are hard to manage. Wheather they are friendly or romantic. I know when I care for someone I care for them more than I should. I had a friend that took advantage of me for 10 years! Had to cut her off... its hard letting someone you care for go... even if you know its an unhealthy relationship.
People take others for granted all the time.
In the end we just need to wory about ourselves and the kids we have [if any] because in the end that's all we have.
xoxo
-tay
Saturday, November 7, 2009
play your position
You keep playing your position, but aren't winning the game
What do you do when this happens? Do you forefit? Keep playing the game but scout out other teams?
There is so much when can do in a situation like this. This is mainly for the single person who is talking to a main person. Waiting for them to make a commitment.
I've had friends who waited for someone for years and it worked out fine. I've had some wait and it not be what they expected.
Basically we gotta think it out and do what our mind tells us to. Sometimes we gotta listen to our head in stead of our hearts. Our hearts get broken to much and could be "speaking" because it needs that quick repair...
Think about it... jordan LOVED basketball... he played it with his heart and mind... but he used his mind and strategies more and became a 6 time champ and the best player ever to his the basketball courts... don't be like master p and taken out the game before the season even starts...
Believe in yourself to make the right decision. Whether it works in the end or does... you'll figure out what to do next game!
xoxo
-tay
What do you do when this happens? Do you forefit? Keep playing the game but scout out other teams?
There is so much when can do in a situation like this. This is mainly for the single person who is talking to a main person. Waiting for them to make a commitment.
I've had friends who waited for someone for years and it worked out fine. I've had some wait and it not be what they expected.
Basically we gotta think it out and do what our mind tells us to. Sometimes we gotta listen to our head in stead of our hearts. Our hearts get broken to much and could be "speaking" because it needs that quick repair...
Think about it... jordan LOVED basketball... he played it with his heart and mind... but he used his mind and strategies more and became a 6 time champ and the best player ever to his the basketball courts... don't be like master p and taken out the game before the season even starts...
Believe in yourself to make the right decision. Whether it works in the end or does... you'll figure out what to do next game!
xoxo
-tay
Wednesday, November 4, 2009
support and compromise
I LOVE when you guys hit me with blog ideas and suggestions... really... you can DM them to me or email me at mzsupasav@gmail.com
This is a DM I received on twitter:
blog idea: being understanding and supportive of da others needs in relationships, ie. compromise.
Compromising and being supportive are BIG key in making a relationship work!
There is a difference in being supportive from sitting there and not saying anything but playing the roll of being supportive.
Us as women most of the time sit there and support our men but when we want to do something we offten get put on the back burner or end up having to give up what we want to do to SUPPORT our men... fellas we can't have this! If your lady wants to do something that you don't agree with but you see that she really wants to do it... COMPROMISE... meet half way... come to a equal medium... ladies we got to do this too. I see this happen a lot in the music industry... a girlfriend or wife does not want their spouse to do a certain show for groupie reasons. Don't bitch about it... met half way... don't go to this show but go to the next one or visa versa... or go for the first half of the show... it shows support and compromise... complaining about anything in a relationship leads to arguements. I'm not saying be submissive to your spouse but compromise... its easier.
Every relationship is 50/50! Nothing more nothing less. We need to support each other to be happy. No one wants to see their spouse fail... right? Being supportive is not being submissive. Sometimes being supportive is taken for granted but if you guys have agreements and have spoke to each other about what your long term goals in life are... it souldnt be that hard to support one another. Especially the person you love!
I hope this helps :)
xoxo
-tay
This is a DM I received on twitter:
blog idea: being understanding and supportive of da others needs in relationships, ie. compromise.
Compromising and being supportive are BIG key in making a relationship work!
There is a difference in being supportive from sitting there and not saying anything but playing the roll of being supportive.
Us as women most of the time sit there and support our men but when we want to do something we offten get put on the back burner or end up having to give up what we want to do to SUPPORT our men... fellas we can't have this! If your lady wants to do something that you don't agree with but you see that she really wants to do it... COMPROMISE... meet half way... come to a equal medium... ladies we got to do this too. I see this happen a lot in the music industry... a girlfriend or wife does not want their spouse to do a certain show for groupie reasons. Don't bitch about it... met half way... don't go to this show but go to the next one or visa versa... or go for the first half of the show... it shows support and compromise... complaining about anything in a relationship leads to arguements. I'm not saying be submissive to your spouse but compromise... its easier.
Every relationship is 50/50! Nothing more nothing less. We need to support each other to be happy. No one wants to see their spouse fail... right? Being supportive is not being submissive. Sometimes being supportive is taken for granted but if you guys have agreements and have spoke to each other about what your long term goals in life are... it souldnt be that hard to support one another. Especially the person you love!
I hope this helps :)
xoxo
-tay
Tuesday, November 3, 2009
Friday, October 30, 2009
she's just not that into you
"HE'S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU"
This book made headlines! Shoot they even made a movie about it... but dang what about us? There's signs that show we aren't that into men!
Now ladies! I ain't finna give away toooo many details... we gotta keep our secrets... but men... we are as slick... if not SLICKER when it comes to the "not that into you" thing.
she gives you her number:
But NEVER seems to pick up when you call. If you had to ask more than once to get her number... she didn't want to give it to you. Why did she giver you her real number? Cuz y'all crazy now and days, "ima call you right now to make sure you gave me your real number" nigga! Come on... that ain't cute... its psychotic! RED FLAG!
she came in her friends car:
But you see her get in the driver seat, and drive away. And you didn't see anyone in her squad drink. Lol
she's over there dancing her ass off:
Then when you come over she starts dancing off beat, smirks and giggles while leaning her head to the side... she can dance... just not with you.
when she says she will call:
But just texts or twitters you
There's soooo many other things we do to show that we are not into you. But not letting the whole cat out the bag. We women are "unstable creatures" lmao very hard to figure out. So men... good luck ;)
xoxo
-tay
This book made headlines! Shoot they even made a movie about it... but dang what about us? There's signs that show we aren't that into men!
Now ladies! I ain't finna give away toooo many details... we gotta keep our secrets... but men... we are as slick... if not SLICKER when it comes to the "not that into you" thing.
she gives you her number:
But NEVER seems to pick up when you call. If you had to ask more than once to get her number... she didn't want to give it to you. Why did she giver you her real number? Cuz y'all crazy now and days, "ima call you right now to make sure you gave me your real number" nigga! Come on... that ain't cute... its psychotic! RED FLAG!
she came in her friends car:
But you see her get in the driver seat, and drive away. And you didn't see anyone in her squad drink. Lol
she's over there dancing her ass off:
Then when you come over she starts dancing off beat, smirks and giggles while leaning her head to the side... she can dance... just not with you.
when she says she will call:
But just texts or twitters you
There's soooo many other things we do to show that we are not into you. But not letting the whole cat out the bag. We women are "unstable creatures" lmao very hard to figure out. So men... good luck ;)
xoxo
-tay
Thursday, October 29, 2009
computer love
Everyday on myspace I probably get 20+ emails saying "what's up sexy, you got a man?"
I DONT do internet dating. Don't get me wrong sometimes I flirt... but I wouldn't intentionaly be online trying to find love.
I know people do it. And I've heard of people falling in love. Maybe its easier because online you can make yourself somebody you want to be but aren't.
Remeber when the party lines were the ish? I was to young to be on them but me and my friends used to be on their and play and talk ish. I never met anyone off of a party line but I have friends who did and still do!
There are dangers of meeting someone online. I mean there are dangers of meeting someone in the club or at the grocery store, but don't you think the dangers would be worse?
Anyways... I don't know why I brought this topic up. Its not appealing to me.
Eff eff eff eff!
This might be a double post day ;)
Lol
xoxo
-tay
I DONT do internet dating. Don't get me wrong sometimes I flirt... but I wouldn't intentionaly be online trying to find love.
I know people do it. And I've heard of people falling in love. Maybe its easier because online you can make yourself somebody you want to be but aren't.
Remeber when the party lines were the ish? I was to young to be on them but me and my friends used to be on their and play and talk ish. I never met anyone off of a party line but I have friends who did and still do!
There are dangers of meeting someone online. I mean there are dangers of meeting someone in the club or at the grocery store, but don't you think the dangers would be worse?
Anyways... I don't know why I brought this topic up. Its not appealing to me.
Eff eff eff eff!
This might be a double post day ;)
Lol
xoxo
-tay
Monday, October 26, 2009
ewwww you got cooties!
When I have "girl talk" with my friends we sit an talk about the most sexual, sweaty, awesome sex! And we talk about the guys with the bigg penis', who can "go down" well... and we even wonder how do we know if he's the one... what's sexy to men? And some wonder why they are considered "freaks" and can't keep a man... I have so many opinons like:
-Size matters cuz I can make my own motion
-I look for swag in a man, presence, how he carrys himself and if he's able to take care of himself!
-I think guys ask girls nif they are freaks because girls put themselves out to be treated like she's a freak and ready to hump
They are many opinions... so I decided to ask some of y'all [twitter] so I can get different opinions! And here's what I got :)
Size or motion in the ocean?
@TMD462:
Thats a hard one but i would say if he he aint well endowed but has al the right motion and know how to use his tounge then i cant complain for long. However i would prefer at least 7inches, at least! But seein as aint had none in 3months and countin i think right now i will be happy wit anything, LoL!! But mos def size do matter!!
What is "sexy" to you?
@megaxave:
whats sexy to me is all together is a personal and physical thing physically it would be what any other guy thinks is sexy on a girl. from her hair, eyes, teeth, face, breasts, stomach, waist, butt, legs, and feet and then its the way a female will will ROCK IT or have the swagger to dress and be sexy with that all together.
Personally like as far as personality goes is her holding her own as a woman and being herself and confident that she is sexy and doesnt let anyone else make her feel otherwise. but then again doesnt toot her own horn about how fly she is and other females hatin on her and other garbage like that. basically a female that is secure in who she is and isnt afraid of what everyone is gonna think on the days she looks a hot mess.
i also think its sexy when a woman is smart, because she'll make smart decisions and have the wisdom not to take that route, what ever it may be. with that all together basically makes what i think is sexy.
- xavier @megaxave / twitter.com
When a male says to a female "ohhh your a freak huh?" What does he mean?
@biggcain24:
Well when I say that, its becuz its kinda like throwin it out there 2 see what she will say next kinda like see how much more info she willing to give up about herself, its used to trigger a response atleast that's how I use it
--biggcain24
what do you look for in a guy?
@xokishaxo:
What do I look for in a guy:
Someone that is passionate and dedicated as I am about what they want or do in life. Most importantly to care for my kids as if they were their own. My kids and I are a packaged deal. You could never have me and not my kids. Someone that is rough on the outside but sweet, gentle, and affectionate on the inside, and can make me laugh. Someone that will have my back as I would theirs. Trust and honesty..
How did you know he was the one?
@imaqueen:
Well...my Husby & I didn't get married until we were in a relationship for 14 years. Now 9 years later, we are still at it. I KNEW for a fact he was the one for me because even with alllllllllllllllllll his flaws...I still loved this man with every single fiber of my being. Its never been easy or perfect, but its mines. We have vested interests, such as kids(5), businesses(4), and oneanother. Also the dick was and IS supa dupa. And for me, that's a must. I'm hoping this answers your questin, Tay, but if not I would LOVE to elaborate! ;)
What's the biggest thing a woman does wrong for her not to be able to keep a man?
@dj_twomp_mp3ent:
Trust.. This only applys to ladies that have a good man.. Not all men are out there tryin to hit everything movin. If you got a good dude and you continue to not trust him eventually he'd feel like it's pointless in tryin to make you see he's trust worthy.
what makes your/a relationship successful?
@prettiesexi
Before I get started on this topic I have to say that I am not a relationship expert, this is just basically what works for Jaytee && I. Also, how I believe a relationship should work in order to survive. These are my own persona opinions, which I have developed over my past failed relationships. That and the many, many bad relationships friends and friends of friends have been in ol. With that said…
[TRUST] I feel that no matter what you’ve been through in past relationships should NEVER carry over to a new one. No matter what give that ‘next’ person a clean slate. Everyone deserves the benefit of the doubt, so unless they give you reason to be crazy-insecure girlfriend, DON’T. Be trusting. (i.e., I know people that hide their access codes from their gf/bf. I feel that the only reason people do shit like that is when they got shit to hide).
[RESPECT] This is MAJOR. You can’t truly be happy with someone who doesn’t respect you. And not just you, people in your life that mean anything to you. I was always taught to treat others the way that you want to be treated. Talking shit, being condescending, yelling @ each other… etc… nobody wants to be with someone like that. [Communication] This is VITAL. I’ve learned so much from JayTee [my boyfriend], he’s the most kind & caring person I know. He taught me how to be humble and talk everything out. I was never the one to talk out a situation be humble and talk everything out. I was never the one to talk out a situation I was the one to be like, “Fuck you, I’m out.” It was easier to run away from a situation, be pissed, && go out with my girls. The typical ‘fuck him/her’ weekend, we’ve all done that. But it doesn’t solve anything, if anything it weekend, we’ve all done that. But it doesn’t solve anything, if anything it makes situations worse. I’m glad that now if there’s a problem or petty fight I can put my pride aside and try to work things out in an adult-respectful way. makes situations worse. I’m glad that now if there’s a problem or petty fight I makes situations worse. I’m glad that now if there’s a problem or petty fight I can put my pride aside and try to work things out in an adult-respectful way.
No mind games! No bring up OLD shit in a NEW argument; if you talked it out n the past DON’T bring it up in the present. Don’t let other people tell you how YOU should handle your gf/bf, (especially those ones who can’t keep their how YOU should handle your gf/bf, (especially those ones who can’t keep their OWN relationships in check!!) Know that relationships take a lot of work. No relationship is perfect, nope, not one That’s pretty much it. I mean there is a shit load more to it then that. But these are key factors and they’re major in mine && JayTee’s relationship. We know what DIDN’T work in our past relationships, so we don’t do those particular things. Simple, right? We think so. ;-)
- MeiShi <33
Michele & JayTee
Picture provided by Michele
Okay so I would have to say this was the best and funn-est [not a word] blog I've done! Thanx to all who participated... like michele said she is not a relationship expert. None of us our. We are speaking from our experiances... experiances do not make us experts just wiser in our choices and life! These questions may have been simple questions that everyone feels they have the answer to but everyone has a different opinion. My opinions I could go on and on! Lol and ON! But I hope these opinons and experiences help you and you learn something new. And I had fun doing this blog. Once again... thanx for those who participated.
*sorry about spelling its 1 am and I'm tired n hungry*
-also sorry about the adds not being up! I haven't made it to a PC yet... don't hate me :)
xoxo
-tay
-Size matters cuz I can make my own motion
-I look for swag in a man, presence, how he carrys himself and if he's able to take care of himself!
-I think guys ask girls nif they are freaks because girls put themselves out to be treated like she's a freak and ready to hump
They are many opinions... so I decided to ask some of y'all [twitter] so I can get different opinions! And here's what I got :)
Size or motion in the ocean?
@TMD462:
Thats a hard one but i would say if he he aint well endowed but has al the right motion and know how to use his tounge then i cant complain for long. However i would prefer at least 7inches, at least! But seein as aint had none in 3months and countin i think right now i will be happy wit anything, LoL!! But mos def size do matter!!
What is "sexy" to you?
@megaxave:
whats sexy to me is all together is a personal and physical thing physically it would be what any other guy thinks is sexy on a girl. from her hair, eyes, teeth, face, breasts, stomach, waist, butt, legs, and feet and then its the way a female will will ROCK IT or have the swagger to dress and be sexy with that all together.
Personally like as far as personality goes is her holding her own as a woman and being herself and confident that she is sexy and doesnt let anyone else make her feel otherwise. but then again doesnt toot her own horn about how fly she is and other females hatin on her and other garbage like that. basically a female that is secure in who she is and isnt afraid of what everyone is gonna think on the days she looks a hot mess.
i also think its sexy when a woman is smart, because she'll make smart decisions and have the wisdom not to take that route, what ever it may be. with that all together basically makes what i think is sexy.
- xavier @megaxave / twitter.com
When a male says to a female "ohhh your a freak huh?" What does he mean?
@biggcain24:
Well when I say that, its becuz its kinda like throwin it out there 2 see what she will say next kinda like see how much more info she willing to give up about herself, its used to trigger a response atleast that's how I use it
--biggcain24
what do you look for in a guy?
@xokishaxo:
What do I look for in a guy:
Someone that is passionate and dedicated as I am about what they want or do in life. Most importantly to care for my kids as if they were their own. My kids and I are a packaged deal. You could never have me and not my kids. Someone that is rough on the outside but sweet, gentle, and affectionate on the inside, and can make me laugh. Someone that will have my back as I would theirs. Trust and honesty..
How did you know he was the one?
@imaqueen:
Well...my Husby & I didn't get married until we were in a relationship for 14 years. Now 9 years later, we are still at it. I KNEW for a fact he was the one for me because even with alllllllllllllllllll his flaws...I still loved this man with every single fiber of my being. Its never been easy or perfect, but its mines. We have vested interests, such as kids(5), businesses(4), and oneanother. Also the dick was and IS supa dupa. And for me, that's a must. I'm hoping this answers your questin, Tay, but if not I would LOVE to elaborate! ;)
What's the biggest thing a woman does wrong for her not to be able to keep a man?
@dj_twomp_mp3ent:
Trust.. This only applys to ladies that have a good man.. Not all men are out there tryin to hit everything movin. If you got a good dude and you continue to not trust him eventually he'd feel like it's pointless in tryin to make you see he's trust worthy.
what makes your/a relationship successful?
@prettiesexi
Before I get started on this topic I have to say that I am not a relationship expert, this is just basically what works for Jaytee && I. Also, how I believe a relationship should work in order to survive. These are my own persona opinions, which I have developed over my past failed relationships. That and the many, many bad relationships friends and friends of friends have been in ol. With that said…
[TRUST] I feel that no matter what you’ve been through in past relationships should NEVER carry over to a new one. No matter what give that ‘next’ person a clean slate. Everyone deserves the benefit of the doubt, so unless they give you reason to be crazy-insecure girlfriend, DON’T. Be trusting. (i.e., I know people that hide their access codes from their gf/bf. I feel that the only reason people do shit like that is when they got shit to hide).
[RESPECT] This is MAJOR. You can’t truly be happy with someone who doesn’t respect you. And not just you, people in your life that mean anything to you. I was always taught to treat others the way that you want to be treated. Talking shit, being condescending, yelling @ each other… etc… nobody wants to be with someone like that. [Communication] This is VITAL. I’ve learned so much from JayTee [my boyfriend], he’s the most kind & caring person I know. He taught me how to be humble and talk everything out. I was never the one to talk out a situation be humble and talk everything out. I was never the one to talk out a situation I was the one to be like, “Fuck you, I’m out.” It was easier to run away from a situation, be pissed, && go out with my girls. The typical ‘fuck him/her’ weekend, we’ve all done that. But it doesn’t solve anything, if anything it weekend, we’ve all done that. But it doesn’t solve anything, if anything it makes situations worse. I’m glad that now if there’s a problem or petty fight I can put my pride aside and try to work things out in an adult-respectful way. makes situations worse. I’m glad that now if there’s a problem or petty fight I makes situations worse. I’m glad that now if there’s a problem or petty fight I can put my pride aside and try to work things out in an adult-respectful way.
No mind games! No bring up OLD shit in a NEW argument; if you talked it out n the past DON’T bring it up in the present. Don’t let other people tell you how YOU should handle your gf/bf, (especially those ones who can’t keep their how YOU should handle your gf/bf, (especially those ones who can’t keep their OWN relationships in check!!) Know that relationships take a lot of work. No relationship is perfect, nope, not one That’s pretty much it. I mean there is a shit load more to it then that. But these are key factors and they’re major in mine && JayTee’s relationship. We know what DIDN’T work in our past relationships, so we don’t do those particular things. Simple, right? We think so. ;-)
- MeiShi <33
Michele & JayTee
Picture provided by Michele
Okay so I would have to say this was the best and funn-est [not a word] blog I've done! Thanx to all who participated... like michele said she is not a relationship expert. None of us our. We are speaking from our experiances... experiances do not make us experts just wiser in our choices and life! These questions may have been simple questions that everyone feels they have the answer to but everyone has a different opinion. My opinions I could go on and on! Lol and ON! But I hope these opinons and experiences help you and you learn something new. And I had fun doing this blog. Once again... thanx for those who participated.
*sorry about spelling its 1 am and I'm tired n hungry*
-also sorry about the adds not being up! I haven't made it to a PC yet... don't hate me :)
xoxo
-tay
Wednesday, October 21, 2009
80 for your 20
The 80/20 percent rule... if y'all don't know what it is.
Its:
When a man leaves his woman who does everything for him but is lacking that 20% [ie her weight, looks etc] for the 20% he's longing for. Like the sideline hoochie that has the banging body and is beautiful but doesn't have anything going on for herself.
Okay so what if a guy is with a 20 and his sideline chick is a 80? Should he leave his 20 for his 80?
Riddle that?
Its:
When a man leaves his woman who does everything for him but is lacking that 20% [ie her weight, looks etc] for the 20% he's longing for. Like the sideline hoochie that has the banging body and is beautiful but doesn't have anything going on for herself.
Okay so what if a guy is with a 20 and his sideline chick is a 80? Should he leave his 20 for his 80?
Riddle that?
Wednesday, September 30, 2009
Ladies, ladies, ladies!
Ladies, ladies, ladies!
What are we doing to ourselves? I see stupidity and insecurities everyday. I ain't here to judge. I'm guilty of being insecure and stupid at times. But you live and you learn right?
Can we please stop letting these men run all over us? Its funny when we say "where all the good men at?" Yo! How are you gonna get a good man when you ain't even good yourself? You don't love your self, and have no self esteem... so you go fuck anyone and everyone who says hi to you.
My male friends point out stuff in my friends all the time and tell me not to be like them. "That one gives off the vibe of a hoe, you can tell by the way she dresses" ladies... baby phat and apple bottom is not to be worn if over 18! Real talk. Apple bottom does cater to us ladies with more junk in the trunk but to do have to rock the cheapest looking pair? Its called hoodrat wear! Step your clothes game up. You don't have to be a label whore. There are places' like forever 21, love couture, or H&M...
"That one is thirsty for male attention, she keeps smiling in everyones face" smiling in every niggas face that says hi to you is lame! Let them chase you! Okay smiling is good but ladies you know when you do that lil dip, n stick out some certain body parts and giggle to everything they say... stop! Come on you know you doing to much. Just be you and be confident! There's some one for everyone.
"She keep going threw his stuff, if you dig deep, you might find something you don't like" I've looked n looked and found stuff I didn't want to see. Most womens excuses are [even mine was] "well if he didn't give me a reason I wouldn't have to" true... BUT what if there wasn't anythig ever there. You just tore a rift in your solid relationships over an insecurity you had... possibly from a past relationship? Its hard not to bring the past into the future... but if you can't move forward from the past... you shouldn't be in this new relationship. He souldnt have to pay for his mistakes.
"If he cheats once, he'll do it again" we all know this is true! But why get mad at the female he cheated on you with? 4 times outta 5 she didn't know shit about you. My ex husband told a female I was his roomate! Now here were my insecuirties and stupidity came into play... the first time he cheated on me I continued to be with him, while stupidly thinking he would change which that thinking gave me a false sence of secuirty.
We can take back our dignaty and self esteem.. don't let anyone bring you down! Be solid, hold yourself down and your kids if you have any. Hopefully you are in that relationship soo great that nothing I wrote matters.
"Pussy is not the most powerful thing, the way we love is the most powerful thing"
What are we doing to ourselves? I see stupidity and insecurities everyday. I ain't here to judge. I'm guilty of being insecure and stupid at times. But you live and you learn right?
Can we please stop letting these men run all over us? Its funny when we say "where all the good men at?" Yo! How are you gonna get a good man when you ain't even good yourself? You don't love your self, and have no self esteem... so you go fuck anyone and everyone who says hi to you.
My male friends point out stuff in my friends all the time and tell me not to be like them. "That one gives off the vibe of a hoe, you can tell by the way she dresses" ladies... baby phat and apple bottom is not to be worn if over 18! Real talk. Apple bottom does cater to us ladies with more junk in the trunk but to do have to rock the cheapest looking pair? Its called hoodrat wear! Step your clothes game up. You don't have to be a label whore. There are places' like forever 21, love couture, or H&M...
"That one is thirsty for male attention, she keeps smiling in everyones face" smiling in every niggas face that says hi to you is lame! Let them chase you! Okay smiling is good but ladies you know when you do that lil dip, n stick out some certain body parts and giggle to everything they say... stop! Come on you know you doing to much. Just be you and be confident! There's some one for everyone.
"She keep going threw his stuff, if you dig deep, you might find something you don't like" I've looked n looked and found stuff I didn't want to see. Most womens excuses are [even mine was] "well if he didn't give me a reason I wouldn't have to" true... BUT what if there wasn't anythig ever there. You just tore a rift in your solid relationships over an insecurity you had... possibly from a past relationship? Its hard not to bring the past into the future... but if you can't move forward from the past... you shouldn't be in this new relationship. He souldnt have to pay for his mistakes.
"If he cheats once, he'll do it again" we all know this is true! But why get mad at the female he cheated on you with? 4 times outta 5 she didn't know shit about you. My ex husband told a female I was his roomate! Now here were my insecuirties and stupidity came into play... the first time he cheated on me I continued to be with him, while stupidly thinking he would change which that thinking gave me a false sence of secuirty.
We can take back our dignaty and self esteem.. don't let anyone bring you down! Be solid, hold yourself down and your kids if you have any. Hopefully you are in that relationship soo great that nothing I wrote matters.
"Pussy is not the most powerful thing, the way we love is the most powerful thing"
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